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[Mary Beth]

I know that for many families there is a worry that if Dad can't feed the baby he won't bond well. So I'd like to share a story here.

We co-sleep with our 2yo (whose move to his own bed is pending some remodeling). Our Somma waterbed sprang a leak this weekend. Its beyond repair this time and we can't replace it until the end of the week so sleeping arrangements are makeshift.

We ended up evicting one teenager to a sleeping bag on the floor so that one adult could use a bed while the other slept in the recliner. After minimal discussion, the 2yo is sleeping with his Dad -- because the bonding is that close despite the fact that he has never even seen a bottle.

Part of this may be due to the fact that he was born via C-section so his Dad was the first person to ever hold and cuddle him. Part is simply due to my DH taking an active parenting role -- changing diapers, playing, cuddling, and co-sleeping from day 1.

The little guy always chooses to sleep snuggled tightly against his Dad, so with only one of us available that's the arrangement we chose during this disruption. He simply wouldn't be as happy with only me as he is with only Dad.
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Mary Beth

Now nursing #4

[amyphilo]

awwwwwww I know what you mean... Though right now both kids are asleep in the living room with me... Toby on me and Isaac on the couch. Most nights they sleep with Joel for several hours before Toby stirs and I have to go to bed. I stay up way too late!
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[Mary Beth]

I know its an issue for many women since there's a lot of misinformation out there about bonding. So I wanted to share the experience.
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Mary Beth

Now nursing #4

[Redrose176]

You guys are right. I LOVE co-sleeping, BEST decision I ever made, well except of course breastfeeding, but I LOVE nursing her through the night. When hubby is home and she wakes up she loves to cuddle and play with him and mornings when he has already gone to work, she wakes up looks for him and gets upset that Daddy is already gone.
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